I've been waiting...

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Life With Grace So Far...

OK, I'm not gonna lie to ya folks, it's been hard these last couple of days.  Very hard.  The process and paperwork and pace of everything is overwhelming, the cultural differences are enormous and becoming a mom overnight is big.  Here are the things that have made it hard so far....

The heat, it's hot and humid here all the time.  Living out of a suitcase, changing hotel rooms 3 times in one week, heating up baby food and washing clothes and bottles and dishes all in a bathroom sink.  Being up half the night, every night, consoling her while she figures out where it is she is sleeping and who it is who is holding her and what it is I am saying to her.  Almost never understanding what people are saying to me.  Finding Chinese formula and diapers and baby food in a Walmart where you can't even read the prices.  Eating strange foods and paying for it afterwards (you can read between the lines!) A sick baby, poor Grace has not been feeling well.  Her digestive system is not working well (you can read between the lines!!) and she's been running a fever for days now.  Changing VERY messy diapers in every imaginable inconvenient place, the train station floor, the back of a crowded taxi zipping in and out of traffic and on the floor of a restaurant (yes the restaurant, not the restaurant bathroom) with 5 Chinese women watching and grabbing Grace's legs, pushing me to do this and that with the diaper, wipes, etc. (all three of these scenarios happened on our orphanage visit Wednesday and it was almost the breaking point for me!).  The pace of running around every day for appointments and orphanage visits and sightseeing is tiring to say the least.  Carrying a baby with you for it all makes it even more exhausting.  All of these things have made the trip hard.

Here's what has made the trip totally worth every minute...

Meeting Grace for the first time.  It was chaotic and loud and hot and wonderful. 
Signing the papers on Tuesday to say the adoption is final and permanent.
Watching her sleep in her crib for the first time, while she holds the back of her hand up to her mouth to soothe herself. 
Seeing her gentle smile when she first wakes up.
Seeing her smile for the first time.
The moment she fell asleep in my arms on the bus to the Civil Affairs office.
The first time she snuggled into my shoulder in the middle of the night to put herself to sleep.
Playing with her in the bathtub for the first time on Wednesday.  She loves the water and she shows it through her giggles.
Seeing my mom and dad interact with her. 
Watching Carolyn try to make her laugh.
Listening to her laugh.
Figuring out what foods she likes and how she likes to eat them.
Walking with her through the market and having people stare at us, sometimes with blatant curiousity, sometimes smiling and nodding.
The first time she held her arms up for me to pick her up (finally yesterday!)

Like I said before... It's all good.














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Monday, September 3, 2012

It's All Good


A lifetime of wanting
Six and a half years of waiting
A few hours of holding...

And it's all good.




p.s More to come tomorrow

Sunday, September 2, 2012

Middle of the Night Questions

Thoughts from a nervous mother in the middle of the night...

It's 6:00 am and I've wandered down to the lobby.  I've been awake for hours, looking over at the empty crib, wondering what it's going to be like today when we finally meet. 
I'm wondering so many things...
Will I cry?  (probably!)
Will you cry?  (I hope so, it's a good sign!)
What will you look like?  I know what you look like through pictures, but what do you really look like?  Feel like?  Smell like? 

All these years of waiting have come down to just a few hours.  I can hardly believe it. 

It's now 1:00 pm and I'm waiting in the hotel room for 1:30 when I will meet the guide who will take us to the Adoption Centre.  It's almost Grace time!!!  Yeah!

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Day Two in Beijing


 Day 2 in Beijing and we've been busy!  I've tried my hardest to pack tons of sightseeing into our time here before I meet Grace because once she's with us who knows how things will go!! She may not be as "into" sight-seeing as we are!!!! LOL  Yesterday we went with our guide to Dr Tea. We participated in a traditional tea ceremony, tasting various teas and of course bringing home a few samples.  In the evening, we went to the acrobatic show at the theatre.  The strength and stamina of those performers was something else!!  My sister and I practised a few moves in the hotel room later in the evening but it looks like we're going to need a bit more practise!!!  I should be able to show you all a few moves when I get home though so be prepared to be amazed!

Today we hired a driver who took us to the Temple of Heaven, Beijing Zoo, the Lama Temple and Liulichang Street, a market street where they sell art work.  We persevered through some heavy rain at times but had a good time overall and saw lots of interesting sights.  I may not be able to post too many pictures throughout the trip since it is taking forever to download or log on in general.  It took us over 20 minutes just to get onto the internet!  Things are a little slow!  I will however post lots of pictures when I return. 

Tonight we may go to the Night Market if it stays dry.  Tomorrow we head out to the airport to go to Nanjing.  Less than 48 hours until I meet Grace!!!  Yipee!!!!

Thursday, August 30, 2012

We’ve Arrived!

Greetings from Beijing!! We arrived last night, early evening.  The hotel looks great!  We had a nice stroll around the hotel last night just to get some fresh air, which was a great idea in theory.  The smog was so thick it looked like we were in a dense fog. checked out the convenience stores and got our bearings and then went home for a  good night's sleep (which didn't happen of course!!!!)  I woke up at1:30 and have been awake off and on since then!!!  Had a great breakfast and are now off to a traditional tea ceremony this morning.  Will post pictures as soon as I can!

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

I'm Off!!!!!!

It's almost time to leave the house for the airport. Wow.  What a journey it's been.  Some of it not so pretty, as most of you know, but a journey none the less.  It's hard for me to believe I am finally here, bags packed and in the car, waiting to start a new journey.  Thank you to all who helped out these past couple of weeks, your thoughtfulness was much appreciated.  I had intended to post a snapshot of the entire journey through photos, from the day I mailed my original application to a finished baby's room.  However, the photos are on different cards and I've run out of time, so I will add to this post at a later time (I'm sure I will have time when I return??!!?? :)  So here are a few pictures of the baby's room in progress and finished.  Enjoy and I'll talk to you from China!







Tuesday, August 28, 2012

24 hours from now....

24 hours from now I will be boarding a plane.  Yikes!!  I haven't slept in days now as the excitement has been building.  My friend Liz mentioned yesterday that she thought I sounded so calm but believe me, it's all an act.  I'm not calm, I'm excited and stressed and freaking out inside! So stressed that I was at the bank on Saturday, trying to get money from the ATM and I forgot how it works!!  WHAT THE HECK???  How can I forget how an ATM works???!!!!  I put in my request and when it didn't spit out the money right away but asked me if I wanted to complete another transaction, I got nervous that it wasn't working and I went and got the clerk to help me.  She patiently explained that the money comes out at the very end.  I was embarrassed to say the least.  She just smiled.  I'm sure I will be the talk at her dinner table tonight, the dumb lady who forgot how to get money out of an ATM.  I guess that's "mommy-brain" at it's best!!  To my defence however, I hardly ever use an ATM!!!!!

Thanks to everyone who sent good wishes through phone calls and emails and blog posts.  I won't likely have time to respond to everyone so please know that I got your message and am thankful.

My friends Rhonda and Josh are currently boarding their plane to China.  They left a day before us and will hopefully scope things out and give me the scoop when I get there!  I'm counting on it!  I have a few activities planned for the first couple of days in Beijing (not like me to sit around doing nothing!!!).  We arrive Thursday evening and are hopefully attending a Tea Ceremony and an Acrobatic Circus show on Friday.  After that, still needs a little planning.  

My friend Catherine has been kind enough to offer to post for me while I am in China.  Catherine has her own beautiful daughter and has been a wealth of advice and encouragement to me.  Thanks so much Catherine, I appreciate it!!  I will post as often as I can and include pictures to show you what I see of my daughter's homeland. I can't wait!!!  Maybe I should head to the airport early, just in case!!!  Is right now too early??!!

The Gift of Parenting

Saw a sign the other day....
The first gift of parenting is knowing you love your child before you've even met them
So true....

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Pack-a-Palooza!!!!

Just finished packing what feels like an entire pharmacy into ziploc bags.  Here is what my bed looked like until an hour ago.....

And I didn't even purchase everything that was suggested, only what I thought I would actually use during the trip or later at home.  That's a lot of stuff, and you may notice there is not even one piece of clothing yet!!!!  How is all of that going to fit into one suitcase??!!!  Mom?  Dad?  Any room???

Friday, August 24, 2012

I'm Back and The Countdown is On!!!!!!

For those of you that check in here regularly, I've taken a bit of a break from blogging this summer.  I've been away vacationing and busy getting so many things ready for Grace (how do you babyproof a china cabinet anyway??;)) Anyways, I'm back on the blogging train, so don't forget to check in here while I'm gone.  I'm going to try my best to keep you updated while I'm in China.  The final countdown is on!!!!  I leave for china in 5 days!!!!  

OMG!! I LEAVE FOR CHINA IN 5 DAYS!!!!!!!!

For now, the waiting continues.  I just had my last vaccination needles this week, I've called my credit card companies, ordered my Chinese currency, checked out my cell phone use in China (doesn't work there, ugh), filled my freezer with easy meals, babyproofed all the lower cupboards and drawers, and now I just continue to wait till 2:55 Wednesday, when that plane takes off, changing my life forever.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Family Camping 2012

We had our annual Family Camping trip this past weekend.  Unfortunately my brother and his family weren't able to join us but we had a couple of new additions to the group, baby K and my nephew's girlfriend, K.  Like usual, my mom and dad were great hosts, opening up their camper and letting us invade them with all our sports gear and board games and munchies and everything else that goes with camping for 5 days.  The weather was a pleasant surprise as it was supposed to rain several times throughout the weekend and we didn't see a drop (my sister tells me it rained Wednesday during the night, but I don't believe her ;) ).  I treasure these family moments as you never know what the future holds and it's so nice to spend time together as a family.  My parents did a good job of instilling the value of family into all of us and it shows in the photos below.  My favourite is the one of my dad and baby K.  Life just doesn't get any better than that.

M is a little camera shy!  K on the other hand is not!

How does it feel setting up a tent after only 4 hours of sleep Eddy?
This guy loves the beach, no really, he does!

S. wearing his armour, homemade, incase you were wondering...

The boys pouring over the baby, how cute!

Get off of me!!!!

Riding the Yellow Dragon


How many people does it take to unload one canoe anyway????

Teenagers and their sandcastles!



Lynda looking her best!

Hey!  Where did your legs go??!

Men doing their jobs......
cooking

cleaning

drying the dishes...

Look out behind you Mom!



Wait for us!

Running up those sand dunes is hard work!


Don't jump!!!

I'm the King of the Castle!


AHH, it was only a mirage!!!! :(

Paradise only 4 hours from home...

How cool is that!  K is a great artist!


My favourite moment of the whole weekend....