I've been waiting...

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Good-Bye August! Hello September!

WhooHoo!!!! They finished August! China sent out referrals this morning for the rest of the August LIDs. That's 10 days worth of files! 10 more stones out of my waiting jar and 10 days closer to meeting my baby Grace! It is a great feeling to know that they will now be starting to work on September files. Come on September! Let's get this party started!!!

Look at this thing! It's practically empty!

Sunday, March 25, 2012

St. Patrick's Day Antics

I'm finally getting around to posting some pictures from my great March Break last week. The weather was fantastic and I took full advantage by being outside every day at some point. Lunch out with my neighbours, bowling with the niece and nephews, lunch with friends and of course St. Patrick's Day. St. Patrick's Day was a hoot this year as always with my Irish and Irishwannabe friends! See below for proof!

New Season of Mad Men

A new season of Mad Men is starting tonight! I can't wait! I've been hooked on the show ever since I accidentally started watching an episode one day last summer. I'm an early riser by nature and I just happened to turn on the TV one Sunday morning at 6 a.m. and there was the very first episode, the series premier of Mad Men starting. I had heard about the show and thought I may as well check it out. Well, it turns out I loved it and have been waking up at 6 every Sunday morning to watch past episodes. However they haven't had a new season in almost 2 years I think. I'm all caught up now and am eagerly waiting for 9:00 to come so I can sit down and watch the season premier! I've got the popcorn ready, pjs on and a blanket to curl up with. It doesn't get much better than this!!!

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Frogs in March???

It's so quiet on the China side I think I can hear crickets chirping! Actually I think it is the frogs with this unusually warm weather. It seems a little early for those frogs to be peeping so loudly but I guess they are excited about this extra warm spring too! There is nothing to report on referrals yet, it seems to be taking forever this month or is it just me!!?? :) On the upbeat, if China is taking longer to match than we all thought, maybe they are getting lots of referrals ready and we'll see September referrals this month!!!! A girl can dream, can't she??!

Speaking of the frogs, they are out in full force already. And so are the mosquitoes! I went for a walk with a friend last night after dinner and the sound of those frogs was loud!!! I had left my car windows open and spent the 20 minute drive home swinging my arms, swatting all the mosquitoes in the car! Drivers passing me must have wondered what was happening. Maybe they thought I was bopping and clapping along to the radio!! LOL It seems so odd to be wearing shorts and sandals in mid-March but I'll take it whenever I can! I love summer!

And now onto other good news..... I received an email from my agency yesterday, sending me my travel and referral packages!!!!!!! Full of exciting information about everything I need to know for when my referral arrives and when I am preparing to travel to pick up my daughter. Even though I was kind of expecting that information to be sent soon, when I saw that email and attachment, it sort of hit me... hey, this is really happening! Holy FrogSymphony Batman, I'm going to be a mom!!!!

Monday, March 19, 2012

Blogging 101

Mini up-date: Thanks to my friend Catherine who made it even easier for you to access the new January post. She kindly sent me instructions on how to provide a link for you. Just click on the blue words: here it is. I'm just learning so much writing this blog, I love it!! Thanks Catherine!

So, I've finally updated my profile for those interested. It's on the righthand side of your screen. I've also added a post to the beginning of January, one that I had started a while back but didn't finish until I wrote my updated profile. If you want to check it out, here it is. For those new to reading this blog, and I know there are quite a few of you, you can use the archive to read right from the beginning as well. If you wish to view the comments or leave a comment, just click on the comments icon at the bottom and write. Feel free to comment as often as you like, I love hearing from everyone! As well, I have changed the comments setting to allow anonymous comments. That way you won't have to sign up for any account anywhere to be able to post. Even though I have set things up so that I moderate the comments before they are published, I would greatly appreciate it if you left your name at the end of your post. I want to be able to thank you or curse you personally!

Sunday, March 18, 2012


Well, it's Monday morning in China and people at the Adoption Affairs offices will be busy at work by now. Will we see notices today about the next cut-off date? Will they finish August? I keep thinking about a baby waiting quietly somewhere in an orphanage in China, oblivious to what is about to happen to them, unaware of how their life will be changing in the next few months. I think about the family who might be getting news today, completely aware of what is about to happen to them but oblivious about how their life will be changing in the next few months. And then I think about me, planning and dreaming of a family for years now and a waiting baby, somewhere in China, who has no idea they are waiting for me. Soon that waiting baby will be coming home to my family. Soon, what's that? I only wish I knew.

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Welcome Robin, Welcome Spring!

Good morning! Notice came out this morning that the China Centre is beginning to prepare paperwork. Time to climb back on the roller coaster again. Let the ride begin!

As an aside, I saw the first robin last week, March 4 to be exact! And you know what that means! Spring!!!!!!! Unfortunately it was during a terrible wind storm and the poor thing was holding on for dear life, huddled in the grass against a tree in in my front yard. This week however has been glorious and I'm sure that robin is happy now! Be excited about the renewal spring brings and enjoy these surprisingly warm sunny days everyone!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

The Tipping Point

I am on pins and needles right now. There has been no news for a couple of weeks now and it's killing me!! This month will truly be the tipping point in regards to me knowing more closely when I will receive a referral. I know we September Log-in people say that a lot, but in this case it is more true than ever. What China determines to be the cut-off date this month, the number of referrals they complete, the number of days they process, will all tell me a lot about when I can expect to see a referral. If they finish all referrals for August, and they should since there is no one logged in again until the end of August, things will be on track, continuing as expected. If China chooses to stop part way through the empty dates, then this year's quota is definitely a much bigger slowdown than we even anticipated. It has been suspected that each year for over 5 years now, China has decreased the amount of referrals they will allow in any given month or year. However the number of files being submitted each year did not decrease at the same rate, creating the slowdown and an incredible backlog of files. So while they may have allowed a certain number of adoptions last year, there will be considerably less allowed this year. That is basically why the wait continues to get longer, the longer I wait. So frustrating for me, so sad for children who will never be matched with a forever family.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Kids are Kids, no Matter How They Get Into Your Family

I came across an interesting article in the Star.com this week. There has been ongoing discussion in the Federal Government about inequity in terms of EI leave between adoptive parents and birth parents. Here is the link if you have a minute to read it:

Adoption Leave. 35 weeks. Maternity Leave. 50 weeks. Something in this feels wrong to me. Not just because I am adopting, but because kids are kids, no matter how they get into your family. I fully understand the rationale behind the difference. Pregnant women who give birth need time to recover from the physical act of giving birth. But what about a child who has been taken away from everything they know in their birth country. Every sight, smell and sound that is familiar to them are now replaced with new sights, smells and sounds. What about the child who has witnessed violence and abuse and still at the age of 10 cannot sleep through the night alone? The toddler who has never experienced a care-giving person care-give to them? What about the rights and needs of these children? Might they need a little extra time to adjust and recover as well? Would they benefit from a stay at home parent for a few more weeks?

The article explains the situation best but I would like to leave you thinking about a few lines taken from the piece.

“The needs of adoptive parents are every bit as legitimate as those of biological parents, and in fact, many adoptive families need extra time to bond with their children due to circumstances such as international adoption or the adoption of a child who has special needs,” said Cuzner in a news release.

“An adoptive leave E.I. benefit would ensure the equal treatment of adoptive families.”

"Many witnesses stated that adoptive parents need more time to adjust, recover and bond with their adopted children,” said the report. “The need for more time is so crucial that some witnesses explained that they had to take an unpaid leave and face economic challenges in order to meet their responsibilities as adoptive parents. Many witnesses suggested that the federal government should create a new benefit that would provide for an extra 15 weeks of leave.”

Equal treatment between Adoptive families and Birth families. Wouldn't that be nice?

Gotta Find the Silver Lining Where You Can!

I'm so excited! I recently went to a Parental Leave workshop offered by my school board. And although I was definitely the oldest woman in the room (including the presenter!) it was still so exciting to be sitting in a room full of expectant parents, and finally being one of them! I found out some interesting information regarding my leave which will work in my favour I hope, allowing me to start my leave in September. Because adoption leave is shorter than maternity leave, 35 weeks as opposed to 52 weeks, if I started my leave in June or July when I travel, I would use up a good portion of my leave during a time when I am already on vacation and wouldn't be at work anyway. So, the good news is, it appears I can start my leave later, in September, giving me the full 35 weeks. Finally something goes my way! :) Since only a few months ago I thought I would be travelling now and things have slowed down even more, this is a little silver lining to the extra bit of waiting! Gotta find it where I can!

Sunday, March 4, 2012

The Agony and the Ecstasy

Still waiting for news on the next set of files being matched and referrals being sent. Waiting for news this month feels like torture. It seems like it is taking forever. It's not, it just feels like it! China only sends out referrals about once a month, but not quite, sometimes it's longer than a month between batches, for a total of 10 or 11 batches a year. So I know in my head it is still too early to expect to hear rumours about the next batch, but I can't help checking the website every morning and night, just in case. This next set of referrals will tell a lot I hope. They finished with August 21 last month and there is no one (we think) with log-in dates for the most of the remainder of August, until about August 28th or 29th. So.... they should be able to finish August with this next set of referrals. And you all know what comes after August don't you?? SEPTEMBER!!!!!! And that means me!!!!!!! September has a lot of people logged in so it is going to be a slow trek, we may see only some 1 or 2 day batches over the next couple of months, but at least I will still be moving closer to my date.

At church this morning, the priest talked about the agony and the ecstasy of daily life. It really struck a chord with me. I feel like this whole journey has been an experience in agony and ecstasy. Each day feels like that! What the wait has done to me emotionally and then the excitement of what is to come. The agony of small batches or skipped months with no referrals and the surprising excitement of big batches with lots of referrals. The wait of not getting things ready too soon and the excitement of panicking about not being ready. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster at an amusement park and can't get off. Somebody stop the ride!!! I'm ready for something quiet like the swan ride!